
My grandparents, Agnes and Edwin shared a 10 year age difference. I think the 1st time my grandmother saw my grandfather she was something like 12 years old when he brought the Christmas tree into her classroom. The rest is pretty much history when they married when she was 20 and they built the farm on a piece of land bought in 1945 just outside of Olds. I as well as so many others in the family are so fortunate that my grandmother has written the family history down. So, I can retrieve quotes like,
"We had electricity installed in 1945 a first in rural Alberta, as Edwin wrote in his memories he signed up for Calgary Power in July of 1945, signing a cheque for $100, leaving a balance of $39 in the bank." Wow.
They built up their
little farm with lots and lots of love, starting with a little 2 room house with 2 children (my mom and her brother Ron) and slowing growing, digging the basement by horse and plow, carefully planting the 'shelter belt', adding sheds for pigs and chickens, pens for cows, a garage, a barn, a big garden bigger than the size of most city house lots and eventually a bigger family.
Together they grew, endured tragedies, travelled and loved one another. My most cherished childhood memories are of my grandparents on the farm. But tragedy struck hard and took
my beloved grandfather when he was only 64, when I was only 5. My grandmother could have made so many choices but the one she chose was to carry on and make the very best of life.
And that's what she did. After having spent the last 35 years as a farm wife and a mother, she went back to school. Travelling the 1hr to Calgary to take a 2-year course at SAIT, boarding during the week and then travelling home on the weekend. THEN at, 57 she got her FIRST JOB. I'm sorry, but if that doesn't make her your hero, what does?? She continued to work until retirement, but that didn't exactly stop her either.
I remember once travelling to Europe and phoning home to let my mother know I was going to Morocco on my own. I asked her if anybody else in the family had been there before. "Oh yeah, your grandmother has been there." was the response. Well my grandmother has been to the Great Wall of China, the
top of the World Trade Towers in NYC, walked down
Bourbon Street in New Orleans, travelled on a camel at the Great Pyramids, and seen the
polar bears in Churchill. I think she's been to the 7 wonders of the world and back around again. Incidentally, I am going home at the end of June only to find she'll be off exploring Labrador!
And while she wasn't travelling, she was maintaining the farm. She stayed there for another 30 years and I had an idyllic childhood because of her. For all the other 'stuff' that was going on, there was always the farm. And it was filled with lessons in making bread and cinnamon buns. Learning to sew, to knit, and to crotchet. I had handmade dolls and sweaters, hand knitted blankets and socks, sewn quilts and lessons in making slippers. Lessons in learning to drive on country roads just like my mother and I stayed in the same room my mother grew up in. Woke up to the perfect porridge in the morning, had the creamiest shortbread the night before. Summers of wheat fields and peonies blooming in the garden, family gatherings and reunions. I have had a lifetime of more than excellent memories and lessons, and love rolled up in one perfect Grandmother.
Now, she has moved on to a new chapter. A condo in town, a gathering place downstairs, a downsizing of furniture and a new view. I know I spent all last week doing 'ode to my mom' segments but none of that would be at all possible if it hadn't been for her mom. This is Agnes. My Grandmother. The smartest, strongest, most independent, creative, courageous, travelled and wonderful person I know. She has bravely embraced all of life's adventures, took the road of strength, resilience and patience whenever she could. She is by biggest hero, my best example, and without a doubt the most beautiful woman I have ever known.
Happy Birthday Grandma, I love you very very much.